Sooooo...The sex talk went AWESOME. It was even better than expected and I highly recommend it if you haven't had a chance to talk to your spouse. I admit, it was supper awkward to start out. Even after 13 years of marriage and children how do you start out telling the man you love you are not happy in the bedroom? If you have done it please let me know how you started. This is how my night went down. I had butterflies in my stomach and it felt like it took forever to get the kids to sleep. We watched a show as I drank a glass of wine. I couldn't tell you what it was about because all I could think about was how to start this conversation. Once I was positive the kids were asleep and the show was over I turned the TV off and turned to Mr. Sparks with a smile. He looked at me quizzically. "Are you happy?" I asked. It was just what came out. I don't know why, I think because that is what is truly what is important to me. His happiness and mine.
It started with a small surface talk and then got deeper into the bedroom issue. We addressed all the issues I wanted to. Mr. Sparks admitted he had been discouraged and he understood that he didn't know how or when to approach me after having children. I admitted my body had changed and I was still getting used to it. We both agreed we wanted more and discussed how to make that happen. Then, it ended online....yes that's right. We ended by looking for some fun lingerie. Something he would like and something I would also enjoy wearing. I admit it turned us both on and the whole thing took us upstairs in the end.
I can't wait for our new goodies to arrive, thank goodness for Amazon Prime. I have a better idea of what he finds sexy and he also understands what he can do to put me in the mood as well. Like help out around the house, compliment me, positive attention, and maybe even hit the gym once in awhile. He let me know he loved the texts I sent, and the compliments I had been giving him as well. I really feel like we are starting to be on the right path.
All the best,
Mrs. Sparks
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