Slow and Steady

Dear Women Everywhere,

Slow and steady wins the race.  Last night Mr. Sparks held my hand as we watched TV.  I know it doesn’t sound like a big deal.  But, it has been a long time since he has reached out and done that.  Usually we sit on our own side of the couch and there is not touching.  I can’t help but think that my effort has subconsciously been noticed by him.  Or maybe it was just the magic of a long Christmas day.  

Thinking about sex so much I have talked to some of my friends.  I am shocked at how many of them have a lack of sex in their marriage.  When did the happiness of our love life stop being a priority?  Why does society project that it is just men that want sex?  I understand that there has to be a balance in life but I do think it is important that my children see that my marriage is happy, because I want them to have a happy marriage one day.  I need to make it a priority, so I can model that for them.  

I found so many articles on sex and marriage in the US (and other countries) even NBC posted this one recently: How often do the happiest couples have sex? (It's less than you think).  Just remember as we go through this journey together not to focus on anyone else's normal.  Don't worry so much about what other people are doing.  This is all about focusing on your and your spouses happiness.  What works for one couple may not work at all for another but, you should always be open to trying new things.  

What do you do to model a good relationship for your children?   If you don't have children, how was a good relationship modeled for you?  

All the best,

Mrs.  Sparks

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